How to Create Charming Personalities

"Watch your thoughts, for they become words

Watch your words, for they become actions

Watch your actions, for they become habits

Watch your habits, for they become character

Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny"

Building a life also means building the relationship with the people around you. Some says that if we have charming personalities, we tend to attract people towards us. But how do we develop charming personalities? As an analogy, if we want to enhance and upgrade our car, just merely waxing and polishing the body would not do anything. But in order to upgrade the performance of the car, we must go straight to the source and that is the engine of the car. The same goes with human beings. By dressing up properly or putting a mask of charm is not sufficient enough. We must work on the source of our personality. We must work on our mind and soul and upgrade it so that we really have positive energy surrounding us. People will notice this aura of positivity and in return will create a charming personality within us.

Creating and Uncreating Habits

"The beginning of a habit is like an invisible thread, but every time we repeat the act we strengthen the strand, add to it another filament, until it becomes a great cable and binds us irrevocably, thought and act." - Orison Swett Marden

Habits are a part of human nature. Like it or not, humans are a habitual creature. We tend to create our own habits consciously and unconsciously. The only way to master our life is to learn about our habits and how it is created. Are we drawn into negative habits or do we use that habits to create positive development in our lives. If you are addicted to smoking, you will know that it is hard to break from the smoking habit without a very strong motivation or the desire to quit. But, you must realise that a habit is a result of repetitive action from our side that automatically gets embedded into our subconscious mind. Added with the nicotine, it has made our body not able to resist the temptation of a cigarette both mentally and physically. But, habits can be created and also uncreated. Learn to uncreate bad habits but replacing and associate it with other habits that have the same force or factors but wth more positive effect. People will automatically quit smoking if they have install other habits that are equally strong. Learn to know your mind so that you can control it and create the life that you wanted it to be.

Secret of the Riches: Small Step at a Time

"People who write their financial goals get rich. It's a fact." - David Bach, The Automatic Millionaire

I once have been asked this riddle, "how do you eat an Elephant?’. After pondering it for five seconds and thinking that it might be a trick question, I answered, "Eat it with your mouth, of course." It was a nice try but it turns out it was not the answer. The answer to the riddle was a very simple one "Eat the elephant piece by piece."

Even though the riddle is just for fun, the answer for the riddle has made me thinking in terms of financial perspective. I change the question and ask to myself "How can you get a million dollars?" The answer to that of course, similar to the eating the elephant's riddle, is "small step at a time". Your goal can be as large as an elephant, but the step towards it can be one step at a time. The trick is to keep on moving and never stop. Slow and steady progress is better that a stagnant position. Do not feel dwarf by your ambition and goals. With patience and perseverance, you can achieve impossible dreams.

If you look at all the giant corporations, you must remember that they are all once a small corporation and was started by a small group of people. With perseverance and hard work, this small corporation blossom into giant and successful corporation as we can see them today. Individuals who have attain great wealth today also starts somewhere small. Richard Branson started his business empire small with selling student magazines. Steve Jobs started his Apple Computer business in his home garage. The only thing that stayed the same was their passion in achieving their dreams. In achieving your dreams, you must always take small step towards your goal in a constant basis. With determination, you can achieve mammoth dreams with small step at a time.

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Secret of the Riches - Act Now ! Do it Now !

"Do not wait; the time will never be "just right". Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along." - Napoleon Hill

Do you know what is the major obstacle for a person to achieve success? It is called procrastination. Some people will always be waiting for the right time to do something significant in their life. The problem is that there is no such thing as the right time. Want to open a business? Do it now. Want to quit smoking? Do it now. Why wait? An action is far better than sitting still and doing nothing.

As Winston Churchill, once said, you should fear inaction rather than doing one wrong action. Just act and do something whether it is the wrong way or right way is much better from not doing anything at all. Either way, you definitely will learn something and in the process makes you a better and stronger person than yesterday. The time will never be “just right”. Procrastination is the result of trying to do something at the right time according to your ideal scenario. We have to accept the reality that obstacles and problems will always be there. By starting in wherever you stand right now and work with whatever resources you have at that time, you will move closer to your dreams. Problems and setbacks will always be there, but with perseverance you will get through it.

If procrastination still affects your daily life, the best way to overcome it is with rewarding yourself each time you have accomplished something or getting jobs done. It will help to stimulate your brain and spirit because as a human being, we will always been attracted to pleasure. By linking the activities of accomplishing something with the pleasure of rewards, it will in time eliminate the habits of procrastination. This will also in the long term, create the desired attributes of a successful person.

Belief of Success

Wealth creation and distribution is actually a vicious cycle that can be seen in every society around the world. The rich become richer and the poor become poorer. In reality, the glass ceiling that separates this both societies is only a mere different mindset of how they perceived the world. The rich will always look at the world in a positive manner and how to capture opportunities so they can become even richer. As the poor societies, they will always look into the world in a negative mindset. They always consider themselves as victims of the environments and can never change even opportunities are laid down just in front of their face.

The statement that we choose our belief is very true. We choose consciously or sub-consciously to be afraid of trying something new, we choose to not achieve financial freedom and we choose a lot of things that seems to be protecting ourselves from danger in the short term but actually is detrimental to us in the long run. Therefore in being aware that we can choose our beliefs, we can then determine our destiny and not depended on the pre-programmed subconscious beliefs that have been implemented in us by our parents and the environment.

Our beliefs also effects on how we solve our daily problems. We face problems in our everyday life. The only difference is how we perceive the magnitude of the problem. The only time that we are not burden with problems are when we are dead. As Albert Einstein once quoted that we should not solve problems based on the mindset and level of thinking when the problem occurs. Our belief and that current state of mind will eventually determine whether you can solve the problem or not. You must be ahead one level as to know what exactly the possible solutions that can be. Be above your problem. Be ahead of your problem. Break out of the box. You will tackle your problems more efficiently as ever before and create wealth for yourself and the people around you.

How to Create Positive Motivation Everyday

"People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily."- Zig Ziglar

“Man is a goal seeking animal. His life only has meaning if he is reaching out and striving for his goals. ” - Aristotle

People who plays string intruments must know the fact that their instruments need to be tune every now and then for it to be in perfect condition. They also know that if their string instrument, for example, guitar to be left unplayed for a while, it will also be out of tune. The same goes with our mind. Even if we have the necessary ingredient to achieve our goals, we need to tune the goal with motivation every now and then. By linking the goal with passion is not enough as the passion will die as time goes by. Tune the passion with positive motivation everyday and the fire that ignites the passion will kept blazing until we reach our ultimate goal.

Positive motivation and igniting it with passion is only useful if we live our life with a purpose. Just imagine a ship sailing towards the sea without any specific destination. The ship is all fire up and ready to go but the captain has no idea where it should go. The ship will just float adrift aimlessly in the open sea. A ship with a destination and also a time to arrive will be utilizing every resource in the ship to achieve it. Living with a purpose means living with the aspiration to achieve something. That is why goals are the most critical factor in determining whether we will have a happy life or not. The notion that we have something to achieve for that will bring much joy and impact to our life will definitely fuel and motivate us to learn, develop and take action. Set your goals today and write it in a piece of paper and commit to take action and achieve the goal that you have set for yourself.

Success

Success can be likened to the tip of a tail. Say if a cat runs to catch its tail, it would have to keep running forever. However if it walks in its own style, the tail naturally follows it.

Moral of the story, live your life with your own standards. Do not follow other people's standards of success. Do not take shortcuts to success, as you may failed miserably. Success will arrive to you if you are patient enough to take the proper road.